How do I overcome irrational fear

Irrational fears - what type of fear are you?

Irrational fears - translated into rabbit categories

Are you already free of fear or are you still hunting rabbits? What kind of rabbit? I'm talking about little and unnecessary fearful rabbits. These nasty beasts that sneak up close to you and nibble your self-confidence bit by bit. Do not you know? You lie! Or you have a six in the emotion lottery - with an additional number. Because at the latest at night, when the body shuts down and no longer releases as many happiness hormones as it does during the day, the nasty rodents come crawling out of their holes.

1. Fear of change: Everything should stay as it is

There would be that, for example Traditional rabbitsthat cannot cope with changes in life and keeps telling you: the risk is too high. It sits thick and fat on your chest, its backside, and it takes your breath away when you think about changing jobs, moving to another city, or maybe breaking free from an unhappy relationship.

2. Fear of failure: Failures are not expected

His best buddy: That Crooked rabbits. Because as soon as we change something, it could be a mistake. In our society, however, it is not initially intended that something go wrong. We always strive for perfection. If something goes wrong, frustration and charm remain - and the fluffy crooked rabbit that we just keep stroking for fear of making mistakes. Failure is really no shame. Often we cannot influence the success ourselves. There are always factors that are beyond our control.

3. Fear of poverty: I'm going broke

It is a very special villain No-coal rabbitswho always sits on our shoulder when we treat ourselves or afford something and says: Does that really have to be? And even if we take out the wallet anyway, the annoying rodent won't let us really enjoy it. Yes, maybe we learned from our parents to turn every penny twice and yes, you don't really have to have everything you want. But there is also no reason to suspect a big bankruptcy when there is a little doldrums. And investing in yourself is always a good idea.

4. Fear of loneliness: No sow is interested in me

Very often looks that too No contact rabbits over with us that the fear of loneliness can drive us through our marrow and bone. His schedule is tricky. Because it always starts exactly when we are already lost in Weltschmerz. It tells you: Nobody cares about you - what have you done wrong in life? And so we then lie alone in bed and let ourselves be robbed of sleep from the sheer unhappiness.

5. Fear of death: help, I'm dying!

Or is there an even more serious reason for the insomnia? Have you ever googled a small cut to see what effects it can have? Since then, have you lived in constant fear of phlegmon or blood poisoning if you've scratched yourself on paper or sharp blades? Then you surely know that Pharmacy shop around rabbits. Just leafed through Germany's "leading" medicine paper, and pneumonia, kidney failure and brain tumors are already on the march. The rodent that likes to eat grass scares us as hell of viruses, bacteria and everything else that makes us bite the grass far too early.

Whichever rabbit sneaks up on you when you least need it, they have one thing in common: They are objectively unreal and yet they strike sneakily and meanly. We feel at their mercy and helpless towards them.

Conquering irrational fears: the "rabbit hunt"

No more helplessness and being at the mercy. From today we go rabbit hunting. And we don't give up until we've killed all of the rabbits. For everyone who is about to call the animal welfare association. We are of course only speaking figuratively here. I'm even vegan and Ralf likes to pet rabbits with his daughters whenever possible. But we have learned not to stand rigidly in front of the queue like a rabbit any more. And this is how you can do it:

Tip 1: give your rabbit a name

We tend to only really grasp something when we call it by name. So if one of the vicious rodents strikes, give it a name you like. My rabbit is called Freddy and like his famous namesake Freddy Krüger from Nightmare on Elmstreet, he is nocturnal. He is a street mix of no-coal and crooked rabbits and very affectionate. He is lying next to me on a pillow on the floor. And whenever I can't fall asleep, he crawls under my covers and stays until I warn him loudly. I usually have to do this two or three times. But then he usually trolls back to his place.

Tip 2: consciously go new ways

Those who change their routines become more flexible in their heads and thus have the best weapon against numerous fearful rabbits. Holding on to the old can be nice when we want to reminisce. But since we can never stand still, it is advisable to tackle changes yourself instead of letting them bag you. How it works? For example, I set up a change day. Every Sunday I do something that I have never tackled before and I am happy when beautiful new things happen. Last week, for example, I went to a café in the Staircase District in Blankenes that I had never visited before. I sat there for less than ten minutes when a fellow student came by whom I hadn't seen for at least eight years. It was nice.

Tip 3: What if ... - the Mr. Bean tactic

A real rabbit killer is the question "what if ...". We call this the Mr. Bean Tactic because in this role Rowan Atkinson is the master at getting into anything. So mentally make your problem bigger and bigger - until you have reduced it to absurdity. At some point you usually notice that your worries are half as wild and irrational and at most are small or large hurdles that you can skillfully overcome.

For all those who want to free themselves from their fear, a guide with humor: "Kill your rabbit! How to put irrational fears at bay (your life)" by Mona Schnell and Ralf Schmitt.

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